Contentment – View From My Shoes

A Treeless Christmas

Christmas is a special time of the year. Don’t forget what makes it so special.

I am a girl who LOVES Christmas: decorating, baking, gift giving, oh! and the music. It is a special time of the year for me. This year when it came time to decorate, we were wrapping up a kitchen and bathroom remodel that was painfully behind schedule. Workers would still be coming into our house to finish up after Thanksgiving. Construction and Christmas decorations do not mix. I was continually fretting over finding a time to decorate. One night I woke up and just accepted the fact that I was not going to be able to decorate for Christmas this year.

Once I accepted that reality, it was unbelievably freeing. A huge burden was lifted. It is now Christmas, I have three poinsettias that were given to me, a candle and a small wreath that were all gifts as well. That is the extent of our decorations. And guess what? As much as I love Christmas decorations, not having them has not changed one thing about the Christmas season. We’ve had family over, exchanged gifts, played Christmas music, but most importantly we have celebrated Jesus and God’s love for us.

Several Decembers ago, we had neighbors move in across the street who were from Denmark. As I was visiting with her and welcoming them to the neighborhood, she commented, “Everyone here wears Christmas. At home, we had Christmas in our hearts.” I think about that comment every year as I put up all of my trees and plan out my Christmas outfits for the month of December. Do I celebrate Christmas internally or externally?

God’s love and the gift of Jesus is incredible and life changing. I can experience His love and the peace it brings without one single Christmas decoration or Christmas sweater. His gift of forgiveness and unconditional love is here for us no matter what. I hope you will accept this gift and understand it was specifically given with you in mind.

1 John 4:9-10, “God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.

By the way, I am looking forward to decorating next year. It will be extra special.

My Story Podcast (or part of it)

Here is the link to a recent podcast where I was invited to share my story.

I was recently invited to join our pastor on his Up and to the Right Podcast. I wanted to share it with my followers.

Many of you read my blog faithfully. This podcast will give you a deeper look into my heart and part of my life.

Up and To the Right Podcast

Where is Your Identity?

Are there certain behaviors in your life that are there just to impress others? There is freedom when you chose to live a spirit-led life only working to be more like Christ.

Since most of the readers or followers of this blog know me, most of you know that I recently retired from a leadership position in education. In that role, there was an expected dress code. Many days I needed to wear a suit; professional dress was always expected where I worked. I must admit, part of my identity was tied to how I dressed for work every day. People could recognize “my style” or who I was by what I wore. I dressed to maintain a certain image. However in my new role, I no longer find myself living under those requirements.

This reminds me of the dilemma the Jews faced after Christ’s resurrection. For many generations they were controlled by the law. There were set expectations and requirements they had to follow. Just as with my professional dress requirement, their identity was wrapped around this way of life. It separated them and identified them as God’s chosen people. This was a problem for the Jews when they no longer needed to live by the law because they had redemption through their faith in Christ’s resurrection not through their obligation to follow the law.

Galatians 3:24-27 tells us, “The law was our guardian until Christ came; it protected us until we could be made right with God through faith. And now that the way of faith has come, we no longer need the law as our guardian. For you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus. And all who have been united with Christ in baptism have put on Christ, like putting on new clothes.”

Not only was it a drastic change in how they lived. It took away an identity that promoted them above others.

I fear we do the same thing today. We establish self-imposed requirements in our lives just to establish an identity so people see us in a certain way. If your motive for a particular behavior is to distinguish yourself from others, this isn’t necessary. This is the same as following a law that is no longer required. We cannot get caught up in self-promoting actions to show others who we are or to prove to Christ we are worthy. Our actions should be reflective of God’s nature, abundant with love, and the other fruits of the spirit all while becoming more like Christ. This is the evidence that will identify us as a child of God, the identity we desire.

This was made clear to me when my late husband first became ill. I can remember thinking that we had followed all of the rules, We had been faithful in every way possible. How could bad things happen to us? I had to realize, following the rules isn’t what God truly wanted, and following the rules doesn’t protect us. God wants our heart and wants us to live a Spirit-led life.

Speaking of a spirit-led life, Just because I am no longer required to dress in an executive professional manner, doesn’t mean I can go to my new job dressed however I want. It would not be in my best interest if I showed up in my pajamas. Likewise, just because we are not sanctified by the law, and we have been released from that covenant, doesn’t mean we can throw all caution to the wind and live however we desire.

God’s word and the Spirit gives us guidance for how to live a healthy, abundant, Christ-centered life. Romans 7:6 speaks to this, “But now we have been released from the law, for we died to it and are no longer captive to its power. Now we can serve God, not in the old way of obeying the letter of the law, but in the new way of living in the Spirit,”

When we are living in the Spirit, we are constantly seeking the Spirit’s guidance to direct our steps and provide wisdom for our decisions. Romans 8:13 tells us it is “through the power of the spirit you put to death the deeds of your sinful nature.”

I don’t have to wear suits any more. There is a new way to dress. Likewise, there is a new way to live. We live in the Spirit. The Spirit guides us and directs us. “So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature desires. The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is the opposite of what the Spirit wants.” Galatians 5:16.

Don’t let your self-imposed standard be your identity. Live in the Spirit, follow his direction and be free.

Keep Your Focus: Find Peace in God

Focus is hard in this crazy, busy world. It is important to keep our focus on Christ so we can remain standing.

Scott and I have this old person exercise routine that we try to do every morning. It is a little bit of stretching, some strengthening, then we end by balancing for 1 minute on each foot before getting off the floor in one smooth movement without using our hands. It really isn’t much, but it makes us feel like we are taking care of ourselves. When we first started trying various balance poses, Scott was having a hard time holding his for a full minute. As I turn everything into a competition, I was enjoying watching him struggle. I don’t know why, but I did advise him that if he would pick one spot on the floor right in front of him and not look away, he would be able to hold it longer. It worked. Now he can often hold longer than I can.

It is so bizarre. Try it. If you are balancing on one foot and move your eyes to check out the TV or to check the time on the clock, you are more likely to fall than when you keep your focus on one spot the entire time.

The same can be said about our lives and where we put our focus. Hebrews 12:2 tells us to “fix our eyes on Jesus.” As long as we are focused on Jesus, reading His word, praising His name, seeking after Him, it is easier to remain standing than when we focus on the circumstances around us. Easier than when we focus on what others have that we don’t. Easier than when we focus on how hard life can be, or focus on times our prayers weren’t answered the way we wanted. All of those distractions cause us to lose our balance.

One of my favorite scriptures that I stand on often is Philippians 4:6-7. “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Let’s break this down.

1. Focus on Christ by praying about everything. Tell him what you need and continuously thank him for what he has done. This is a living daily focused on Christ.

2. When we do this, we experience peace – a peace that no one can explain or understand. A peace that comes only from God. I have personally experienced this unexplainable peace at various times in my life when everything was in chaos, but inside, I had peace. I didn’t have answers nor did the situation change, but I had peace.

3. This peace guards our hearts and minds. God’s peace guards us against anxiety, it guards us against fretting. We don’t have to live in a state of panic because our hearts and minds are protected when we put our focus in the right place – Jesus.

I have been in a couple of meetings recently that created a great deal of stress. I could feel it in my body. My thoughts were all over the place, but mostly full of anger with fantasies of just spouting out every mean thing I could think onto people involved. I wasn’t the person I want to be.

I began to practice the steps above. Not like a magic incantation, but as a way of changing my thoughts. I began to thank the Lord for all the wonderful amazing things He has done in my life. I was honest with God that I needed help and wisdom. Not like magic, but I am better. I’m in a place where I have confidence with who I am, not what others say about me. I know who my provider is, and I know that I am a child of God. My perspective is changed because my focus is changed. I’m not focused on me. I’m focused on the Lord who through David tells us in Psalm 16:8, “I keep my eyes ALWAYS on the Lord. With Him at my right hand, I will not be shaken.” (NIV)

This isn’t a practice to only walk through when battles are raging. It is a way of life. Try it.

P.S. Let me know if you try standing on one leg. I want to hear how it works for you. I would also love to hear how you stay focused on Christ in your life.

Enjoy the Present Season

Christmas can be full of joy or full of pain and hurt. Make it the best possible by choosing to be present.

Wellness is a topic we hear about frequently. At work we are actually taking the eight dimensions of wellness, and looking at a separate component each month. As I was putting up Christmas decorations last weekend and going through all of the emotions involved there, I was reminded of the importance of being present which is a piece of emotional wellness.

We know the importance of being present. Psalm 118:24 tells us “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” There is a need to focus on the here and now and there are many tools that can help us do that such a journaling, meditation…. What I want to write about instead of the act of being present is what being present is NOT.

Being present is NOT dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. This was particularly hard for me this year as I was decorating. Every ornament I pulled out of the box, every item that I sat on a shelf, every stocking that I hung, brought back a memory tied to a Christmas of the past. Christmases with my grandma and all of my cousins packing around the “kids” table out in the back washroom. Christmases when my children were at home and helped me decorate the tree. The list and memories go on and on causing me to not be satisfied with what Christmas looks like now, this year, because it doesn’t look like what it used to.

For me, spending time thinking about the past Christmases brings fond memories that I deeply miss and wish I could recreate. For others, when you are dwelling on the past, you may be experiencing thoughts of regret. Maybe it is regret over things you said or did. Maybe Christmases in your past bring up memories of deep hurt. As you continue to roll through these memories and thoughts on repeat, you recreate anger, hurt, or all the feelings of the past that keep you from enjoying your today.

Christmas is a special season. Not only a season to celebrate with family, but also a season to give special recognition to the fact that God sent his son to earth to die on the cross so that we can be redeemed and be forgiven of our sins.

Whether memories are joyful or painful, we cannot let our minds stay in the past. You cannot focus on the present, when you are reliving the past. The same is true if you are worried about what next year will look like. Thinking about what could have been or what might have been doesn’t create joy or honor what God desires for us. We have to be present with what is right now. While my heart aches for the Christmases of the past, I choose to live and enjoy the Christmases of today.

As your mind wonders from the present, bring it back into focus by giving praise to God for the gift he gave us. Colossians 3:2, “Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on the earth.” Get busy living and quit using all of your thought time to dwell on the past or worry about the future. Use that energy to make this year special and to make a difference for God this season.

If you’re thoughts this season are heavier than in the past or there is a sadness you cannot shake, do not be too ashamed to seek help. If you just need a reminder to focus your thoughts on the good of today, read Ecclesiastes 3. Write out Ecclesiastes 3:11 & 12. Put it on your bathroom mirror, put it in your car. Hide it in your heart to remember to enjoy this year’s Christmas season.

“Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end. So I conclude there is nothing better than to be happy and enjoy ourselves as long as we can.” Ecclesiastes 3: 11& 12.

What is Missing?

Do you feel you need more to be happy, or are you content with the blessings you already have?

The picture attached to this post is a picture of my dashboard. Let me start by saying, when I bought my car several years ago, I did some serious car shopping. I wanted a car with every possible option because I was planning on driving this car for many years. I thought my car had everything on it that was possible until I saw this place where obviously another option was available. Once I noticed this, I became obsessed about what might have been there, but wasn’t.

Instead of looking at all the features my car had, I was consumed thinking about what was missing. I had been cheated; I was missing out. After looking in the manual and realizing the missing switch was for the heated steering wheel, I really felt deprived.

So often, we feel this way in life when we begin to compare ourselves to others. We become consumed with what others have and what we don’t have. Maybe it’s a bigger house, the latest fashion trend, or some FB post that creates a desire for something you don’t have. Even though we are surrounded by blessings, we are focused on what is missing.

Hebrews 13:5 NIV tells us to “Keep your lives free from the love of money and to be content with what you have, because God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.’”

I wish I could say that I have never been guilty of seeing someone in a pair of shoes, then grabbing my phone to search the internet to find those shoes because I just have to add them to my collection. This mindset isn’t what God desires for us. He desires for us to be content with what we have and to find our joy and pleasure in Him. Our worth and value is set by God; not by what we have.

I’m not going to lie, there is joy in getting a new pair of shoes. However, that joy is short term. It is only a couple of weeks or the next season until another pair of shoes are needed. Compare this to the promise “I will never leave you or forsake you.” Joy and peace truly can be found when we change our focus from what we might be missing to what we have and what God has provided.

I pray for you and for me that we can find our value and be content in the way God has created us and what he has provided for us instead of always looking for what is missing or what we don’t have.

Entangling Vines

Scott and I went on a hike over spring break and about half-way through our hike, we came upon a tree with a large vine growing around it. The vine had been wrapped around the tree for so long that the tree was growing around and over the top of the vine. I couldn’t get its deformed image out of my mind the rest of the hike.

Now, I understand that the tree itself doesn’t have the ability to get rid of the vine, but what bothered me the most was the way the tree appeared to have become very comfortable even adapted to the entanglement of the vine around it. The tree just kept going on with its life which for a tree means it just kept growing up and out. However, because of the vine, it grew in a different shape than designed.

I believe as Christians, we often do the same thing. There are sins or hindrances in our lives that instead of removing them, we just become very comfortable with them. We adapt and move on with the choking vine preventing us from normal growth or the growth God has planned for us. I know one of mine is the entangling vine of busyness. One night last week I had a cancelation, so after dinner was fixed and put away, I found myself with an unscheduled hour and half. I embarrassingly really didn’t know what to do with this free time. In Ecclesiastes 4:4-8 we are told that it is a fool who toils to please others. Now, in this story, Solomon warns that we shouldn’t just fold our hands and do nothing, but one handful of quietness is better than two handfuls of working all the time just to gain what others have.

Right after the evening with some unexpected free time, I was reading the book Emotionally Healthy Spiritually. The last few chapters of this book focuses on spending quiet time in God’s presence and keeping the Sabbath. When you are as entwined with busyness, as I have allowed myself to be, you cannot keep the commandments of the Sabbath, and your life begins to look like the tree we spotted on our hike. God has so much more for us when we live without vines in our life.

Reflecting on this, I realize I also struggle with always wanting more. Not always new things, but also more work. As soon as I get one job around the house finished, I find another one. If I can get this done, the yard will look better. If I paint that wall, that room will be complete. “If only” is a vine that chokes and twists around us like none other. Hebrews 13:5 speaks to this. “Let your conduct be without covetousness be content with such things as you have.” Always wanting more can be another choking vine.

Enough about all the vines I have in my life. What vines are twisted around you in your life? Vines we just live with every day. Vines we just work around because we have become very comfortable with them. Vines we don’t even recognize as holding us back from what God has intended for us. I pray that you find your vines and prune them from your life, so you do not become misshapen as the tree in this picture, but can grow into the beautiful tree you were created to be.

Everyone has a Job to Do.

We are all created to play a role in the body of Christ. Be proud of what you are created to do.

milk I’m embarrassed to tell this story, but this weekend I made a cooking mistake you would expect a 12 year old to make, but not someone who has been putting food on the table for MANY years. I was making macaroni and cheese with my mind on a million other tasks. Right before I put the last cheese in, I thought the pasta had a different smell to it and immediately realized what I had done. I used sweetened condensed milk instead of evaporated milk. I had no idea how this was going to turn out, but went on as planned. We dubbed it dessert mac and cheese. While the concoction was edible, it was really rich and a few bites went a long ways.

While each can is technically a milk product, each serves a completely different purpose. They are amazing when used the right way, but disastrous when used as a substitute for each other. I was reminded that we are the same way. God has created each one of us as an individual with distinct characteristics, but disaster is guaranteed when we try to be something other than what we were created to be. Romans 12:4-6, “For as we have many members in one body, but all the members do not have the same function, so we, being many are one body in Christ, and individually members of one another. Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, let us use them;”

While I’m airing all of my dirty laundry, I might as well give you an example. As a teen, I so wanted to be able to sing in church or play the piano. I’m telling you, this is not what I was designed or created to do, but for some crazy reason, I had to give it a try. I’m so glad we didn’t have video cameras in everyone’s hand when I was growing up. I feel pretty safe there is no embarrassing evidence of my futile attempts to sing or play the piano. I’m telling you I cannot even keep a steady beat, but I tried to be something I wasn’t. Fortunately, as is the same with you, I was given other talents that I’m glad I have come to appreciate.

I just wanted to share this hoping you would be encouraged to thrive in the way you were created and use those talents with pride. No one is more or less important in the eyes of Christ. You are special and you are needed in the body of Christ.

It’s all in God’s Timing

7CB7EF82-8E8B-49F3-BE25-111DCE307A89 Isn’t it amazing how sometimes you can be in the right place at the right time? There is a new restaurant not far from our house. As you are standing in line waiting to order, they go down the line passing out shake samples. When they run out of samples, the next person in line gets a cow bell. If you ring the cowbell as you are ordering, you get a free order of fries. Twice, I got the last shake sample and Scott got the cowbell. He rang it with full gusto to get his free fries. We were in the right place at the right time.

Over the last couple of weeks, I have watched some young leaders handle difficult situations with amazing confidence and poise. As I have watched these events unfold, it has been affirmed that God has placed these leaders right where He wants them, at the time He wants them for His purpose. It is the most amazing feeling to know that you are right where God wants you, that you are in the center of His plan doing what He has called you to do.

Each and every one of us was created by God for a purpose. “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10. I believe with all of my heart that God has a plan for you. Your life is important and it matters. Colossians 1:16, “For in him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, … All things were created through Him and for Him.” You are not just going through the motions of life. God has a plan for you and it is a wonderful plan full of ways to serve Him. “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11.

Like I said earlier, we are often in the right place at the right time because we are where God wants us to be. It might not be for a free order of fries. It might be because someone needs to hear a positive word from you or is in need of an act of kindness that only you can share. Take just a minute to look around and think about how you can serve the Lord right where you are in life at this time, and never forget God had a plan just for you.