Angela Grunewald

I Can’t vs I Won’t: Looking at the Samaritan Woman

My dad was quite the handyman. In my mind there wasn’t anything he couldn’t fix. I often had projects that I wanted him to do. He would either quickly and gladly do It for me, or simply tell me it couldn’t be done. In other words, it was a bigger project than he wanted to take on. It was a family joke that when dad said it couldn’t be done, it just meant he didn’t want to do it.

I think about phrases that I catch myself saying such as, “I can’t get up early and workout.” That isn’t true. I can get up early; I just don’t. “I can’t eat just a few chips.” Again, not true. I have the ability to put the bag away and stop. I just don’t. I’m sure you have some of these statements in your life as well.

I want to take these statements and talk about the “Woman at the Well” in John 4. This is a story most are familiar with. The disciples had gone into town to get food, and Jesus stopped at a well. While he was there, a Samaritan woman come to the well. Short version of the story, Jesus not only told her all about her life, but offered her Living Water. She met Jesus there and knew he was the Messiah.

What I want to look at is what she did next. She could have kept that experience to herself, but she didn’t. Verse 28-30, “Then, leaving her water jar, the woman went back to town and said to the people, ‘Come see a man who told me everything I ever did. Could this be the Messiah?’ They came out of the town and made their way toward him.”

We can’t know the thoughts of the Samaritan Woman, only her actions. But thinking about what thoughts she might have experienced, they include thoughts with the word cannot. I cannot tell anyone about this because no one will believe me. I cannot tell anyone because of all that has happened in my past. I cannot tell anyone, because I might look foolish. I could list many more thoughts that might have crossed her mind based on my personal experience. Probably the thought I have believed the most is, “I cannot tell anyone because I don’t want to offend them.” These are not statements of can’t. They are statements of won’t. Once we have been with Jesus, we should naturally want to tell people. Saying that we can’t isn’t true. We are choosing not to.

Whatever feelings were had by the Samaritan Woman, she put them aside and ran into town to tell everyone. The evidence of her actions is found in verse 39. “Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony.” Because she told others about her experience with Jesus, many came to know him.

What is God asking you to do? When you spend time in the word and in prayer, do you have notions or ideas of actions you should take but instead of taking moving forward, you say, “I can’t do that?”

Often when I have concerns, they aren’t necessarily that I don’t want to do something, but Satan gets in my head and tells me that I can’t. I hear, “You can’t write.” I hear, “You don’t know the Bible well enough to write about it. You will make a theological mistake.” These thoughts cause me to think that I can’t, so it becomes I won’t.

Let’s work on this together. If the Samaritan Woman can run into town and tell everyone about the man she just met, we can do what God is asking us to do.

Reflecting on My Retirement Decision

Everyone faces decisions on a daily basis. This is just a summary of how I recently arrived at a major decision in my life.

Most of you who follow or read my blog know me personally, so you know that I just recently announced my retirement. I’m hoping that decision gives me more time to write and the ability to be a little more real. There are topics that I think about putting in writing, but hold off because of how it might be wrongly translated at work.

I wanted to start by writing a little bit about how I came to the decision to go ahead and retire. It started with a comment from a couple of people about what retirement might look like for me. Then I read the book, From Strength to Strength, by Arthur Brooks. Next my son made a statement that really caused me to reflect on some whys in my life. I can’t list everything that happened in the last few months, but everywhere I turned, something was pointing me into the direction of retirement.

Changing topics for just a bit. I changed up my daily prayer routine about 8 months ago. Over the years, I’ve kept prayer journals, prayer lists, prayer cards. Whatever feels right at the time. A while back I decided that in addition to my daily prayer list pertaining to whatever is on my mind, I would make a monthly prayer list. This list would never have more than 5 needs on it, and I would deeply pray purposely for those 5 needs each and every day for a month. I also attach a scripture to each need and pray that scripture over the need as well for the entire month. There is no biblical reason for this method. It is just a combination of things I have read and something that was on my heart to do.

Back to my decision about retirement, for the month of December, I have been praying Isaiah 43:16, “Thus says the Lord who makes a way through the sea and a path through the mighty waters.” I have been praying this pertaining to the continuous promptings towards retirement. I have prayed that the Lord would show me what he desired as clearly as he made a way through the sea. I asked for direction that was so clear I could follow it and a path so wide that I would know where to step and where to go next.

The purpose of Isaiah 43:16 is to encourage the Israelites, remind them how powerful God is, and assure them he can deliver them as they were under the rule of Babylon at the time it was written. For me this verse assured me that God provides for our needs. My current need was reassurance that I was following what he desires for my life. I have always felt that teaching was my calling. I want to make sure my retirement keeps me on the path that God has for me. A path where I honor him and serve him. A path where I can be used for his purpose.

I don’t’ know what you are going through, what decisions you are trying to make or what waters you are navigating, but if you ask, God will show you the path or he will provide the deliverance you need. Commit to following his will, and his desires will be made known to you.

Navigating Life: Listening to the Holy Spirit

Jesus promised us a helper who would guide us in life. Are you paying attention to your navigator?

Scott and I spent almost 40 hours in the car over my last break. We listened to podcasts, sang some tunes, read, and had great conversations about future plans. We love time together in the car. Scott drives twice as much as I do, but I take my turn every now and then so he can get a break. As I was driving on a section of the road that I almost always drive where we transition from I30 to I49 at Texarkana, Scott nonchalantly ask if that factory looked familiar to me. I kinda shrugged it off and kept talking. After a quiet pause, Scott casually asked another question. “Do you think you are on the right road?” Without much thought I answered, “of course. This is how we always go.” For the third time, Scott calmly stated, “I think we are going north.” You can guess, that I denied that was even a possibility until Scott motioned to the compass on the rear view mirror and pointed out that we were in fact going north. I still don’t know how or where I made the wrong turn, but I obviously did.

Sometimes in life, we do the same. We are traveling down the road of life: living, surviving, keeping our head just above water while possibly unknowingly making a wrong turn. It could be a seemingly insignificant decision, behavior or habit, and we might not even realize this action is placing us on the wrong path. However, the Holy Spirit is quietly pointing out to us that we need to change or we need to adjust priorities. It may not even be a mistake. It may just be the Holy Spirit quietly, discreetly nudging us to change paths. “And when he (Holy Spirit) comes, he will convict the world of its sin, and of God’s righteousness, and of the coming judgment ….When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth” John 16:8 & 13.

Change is hard. Personally, once I recognize something needs to change, it usually takes multiple attempts and lots of prayer to get there. It’s not like driving down the highway and a simple U-turn gets your problem fixed. Thankfully, the Holy Spirit keeps whispering in my ear and God is there to provide strength and a path to help me get back on the right road.

Again change is hard, but just think what would have happened if Scott hadn’t been paying attention and noticed that I made a wrong exit? I would have kept going north for possibly miles before realizing I was going the wrong direction. Not only should we listen to the small nudge from the Holy Spirit, but be thankful for it. Listen and make the change as soon as you can.

Another thought, change is easier with a friend. Find someone you can trust and let them know what is on your heart. Ask them to help either by providing support or by providing accountability. Three verses come to my mind that confirm this is a good practice. I included them at the end. Yes, God is there and will give you all you need, but that just might be in the form of a friend.

Finally, consider that you might be the friend who someone else needs to help them get on the right path and stay there. Pray that God will help you be that person.

Scriptures:

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.” Romans 12:2

“God is at work in us.” Philippians 2:13

“Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed.” James 5:16

Enjoy the Present Season

Christmas can be full of joy or full of pain and hurt. Make it the best possible by choosing to be present.

Wellness is a topic we hear about frequently. At work we are actually taking the eight dimensions of wellness, and looking at a separate component each month. As I was putting up Christmas decorations last weekend and going through all of the emotions involved there, I was reminded of the importance of being present which is a piece of emotional wellness.

We know the importance of being present. Psalm 118:24 tells us “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” There is a need to focus on the here and now and there are many tools that can help us do that such a journaling, meditation…. What I want to write about instead of the act of being present is what being present is NOT.

Being present is NOT dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. This was particularly hard for me this year as I was decorating. Every ornament I pulled out of the box, every item that I sat on a shelf, every stocking that I hung, brought back a memory tied to a Christmas of the past. Christmases with my grandma and all of my cousins packing around the “kids” table out in the back washroom. Christmases when my children were at home and helped me decorate the tree. The list and memories go on and on causing me to not be satisfied with what Christmas looks like now, this year, because it doesn’t look like what it used to.

For me, spending time thinking about the past Christmases brings fond memories that I deeply miss and wish I could recreate. For others, when you are dwelling on the past, you may be experiencing thoughts of regret. Maybe it is regret over things you said or did. Maybe Christmases in your past bring up memories of deep hurt. As you continue to roll through these memories and thoughts on repeat, you recreate anger, hurt, or all the feelings of the past that keep you from enjoying your today.

Christmas is a special season. Not only a season to celebrate with family, but also a season to give special recognition to the fact that God sent his son to earth to die on the cross so that we can be redeemed and be forgiven of our sins.

Whether memories are joyful or painful, we cannot let our minds stay in the past. You cannot focus on the present, when you are reliving the past. The same is true if you are worried about what next year will look like. Thinking about what could have been or what might have been doesn’t create joy or honor what God desires for us. We have to be present with what is right now. While my heart aches for the Christmases of the past, I choose to live and enjoy the Christmases of today.

As your mind wonders from the present, bring it back into focus by giving praise to God for the gift he gave us. Colossians 3:2, “Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on the earth.” Get busy living and quit using all of your thought time to dwell on the past or worry about the future. Use that energy to make this year special and to make a difference for God this season.

If you’re thoughts this season are heavier than in the past or there is a sadness you cannot shake, do not be too ashamed to seek help. If you just need a reminder to focus your thoughts on the good of today, read Ecclesiastes 3. Write out Ecclesiastes 3:11 & 12. Put it on your bathroom mirror, put it in your car. Hide it in your heart to remember to enjoy this year’s Christmas season.

“Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end. So I conclude there is nothing better than to be happy and enjoy ourselves as long as we can.” Ecclesiastes 3: 11& 12.

Navigating Life’s Choices with the Holy Spirit

Elevators seem to elude me in hotel hallways. Sometimes the willpower to take the highroad is just as hard to fine. The Holy Spirit is here to help us.

I have a small, embarrassing confession. I hope I’m not alone. When I’m staying at a hotel, I struggle to remember which way to go to find the elevator. I walk out the door of my room, look both ways down the hall and just guess. I have a 50/50 chance of getting it right. The worse guess is when I take off in one direction and about 5 doors down, I decide I chose wrong. I about face, walk back past my door and head the other way only to reach the end of the hall and realize I was right the first time.

You know, life can be like a hotel hallway. Sometimes I feel I’m standing at the door trying to decide which way to go. We are often faced with the choice to love or to hate, to be selfless or selfish, to judge or accept. It is our choice. You can look down the hallway both directions, but eventually you have to make a decision. There have been times where I have been hurt deeply by someone’s comments or actions. I then had to decide how to reciprocate those actions. These decisions are not easy and in my case, cannot be done without help from the Holy Spirit.

Back to the hotel hallway, my go to if available is to follow Scott out the door and follow his direction. Of course this only works when he is with me, but guess what? In real life, the Holy Spirit is right there with us at all times to guide and direct us. The Holy Spirit will lead us and guide us with those decisions and give us the strength we need if we will follow the leading.

In Galatians 5, Paul tells the Galatians they can be led by the Spirit. Specifically, in verse 16 he says, “So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.” He goes on to explain that the flesh and the Spirit are in conflict with each other. It is like standing in the hotel hallway deciding which way to go. We may want to hurt as deeply as we’ve been hurt. We may want to judge others for the decisions they make. However, all we have to do is follow the leading of the Holy Spirit to fight those fleshly desires.

Interestingly if we are listening and seeking the guidance of the Holy Spirit, we make the right decision and choose wisely to begin with. However, other times we go on our own and make a selfish decision or act in an unloving way only to feel the conviction of the Holy Spirit that what we did was not in alignment with God’s righteousness. John 16:8, “And when he (Holy Spirit) comes, he will convict the world of its sin.”

I want to take time and talk about the difference between conviction and condemnation. Conviction is from the Holy Spirit and is about a behavior that needs to change or be corrected. Condemnation is from man or Satan and says you are a bad person. That is not true. You are a child of God, made in his image. You are not a bad person. However, everyone makes bad decisions from time to time that need to be corrected. That is why the Holy Spirit was sent to help us.

Maybe you are standing in one of life’s hotel hallways right now trying to decide how to respond or whether to spread untruths to make yourself look better. Choose love, choose kindness, chose the way the Holy Spirit would lead you.

Purpose of Fruit

Just as a tree produces fruit to reproduce, so should we.

Scott and I have a crabapple tree in our back yard that provides beautiful pink blooms in the spring and deep dark foliage in the summer and fall. It is a beautiful tree except for the fruit that falls off of it each year. These little round balls of mess get on the dog’s feet leaving pink stains everywhere. There is also a blanket of seeds around the tree that get chunked across the yard by the mower. Worst of all, you guessed it, more trees growing all over the yard. Little science lesson here, the main role fruit plays other than a tasty snack is to spread seeds. This is referred to as seed dispersal, and allows the plant to reproduce.

In John 15:16 Jesus tells his disciples, “I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit.” We are to bear/produce fruit. How do we do that? Two steps. First, earlier in John 15, Jesus says, “abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you unless you abide in Me.” We have to abide, linger, remain, dwell, with God to produce fruit. We have to spend time with Him daily to produce fruit. Secondly, Galatians 5:16-23 instructs us to walk in the spirit, not in the flesh. It then explains that when we are full of the Spirit, we produce fruit. The fruit here is listed as “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” God clearly desires that we produce fruit.

I want to circle back around to the purpose of fruit – to reproduce. Jesus didn’t command the disciples to produce fruit to look good. He also didn’t command them to compare how much fruit they could produce. They were to produce fruit to glorify God and spread his love and faithfulness to others. We are to do the same.

I don’t just ask you if you are producing fruit. While that is necessary, the question for today is are you sharing your fruit and planting seeds? Are you loving others? Do you model patience and kindness with the people who cross your path? How are you share your fruit and plant seeds?

Trust God vs Doing it Yourself

Why do we try to solve our own problems instead of just trusting God? This is what He desires.

When Scott and I are driving somewhere new, we take completely opposite approaches. If I have any sort of idea where I’m going, I’m determined to find the location on my own. This often involves a U-turn or two. I use Google Maps only when I finally realize I cannot find the location, or if I’m going to be late because I keep backtracking. Scott on the other hand will use Google Maps right from the start. He has no problem trusting the map and letting it guide him. He just plugs in the address and heads to his destination without any worries. I however try to rely on my own skills. Grant it, this often resorts in honking horns as I abruptly change lanes or undue stress because I’m at the wrong place. Frequently I end up using the map despite my best efforts.

We have the same options when it comes to trusting God with our lives. Many times as Christians we feel we need to do it on our own. Maybe it is the theory that I got myself into this mess, I can get myself out. Maybe it is if I work hard enough, I can make this happen. If I keep pouring into this relationship, it will get better. I have to fix this before anyone finds out. Honestly, it can be any problem you are facing. We try to figure it out ourselves instead of trusting God. Otherwise, we wait until we have tried it ourselves and are out of options. Only then do we decide to reach out and ask God for help.

Proverbs 3:5-6 tell us, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” This Proverb tells us not only should we trust God instead of ourselves, but when we do, He will direct our paths. Just like the time and stress I could save by using a map, we can save ourselves heartache and costly mistakes. We also experience a lack of peace that wouldn’t be necessary if we acknowledge God by trusting our problem to Him. We must let go and trust Him.

Right now ask yourself, what are you trying to do yourself that needs to be turned over and trusted to God? What is keeping you up at night or always on your mind because you are working around the clock to solve a problem that God wants to help you solve? Take that problem and place it in this this verse. Make it a personal prayer.

I trust in you Lord with all of my heart to _________. I am not leaning on myself, but calling out to you so you can direct my path.

Passionately Share Your Faith

I love sharing my food and allowing others to enjoy. Why do we not share Jesus with the same passion?

When you get your food at a restaurant, do you sometimes want everyone at the table to try it? I know, some people like to share food more than others. Scott and I share bites almost every time we eat out somewhere new. I find myself saying, “You have to try this.” Scott of course will do the same. It isn’t because we don’t want to eat what we ordered. It is because the food is amazing, and we want each other to taste it and enjoy.

Shouldn’t we feel the same about our experience with Jesus. Most of you reading this blog, have experienced what it is like to be with Jesus. You have experienced what it is like to feel His peace in the midst of a crisis. You know what it is like to see Him miraculously meet your financial need. You remember a time when He made the impossible happen. If we know and have experienced something this wonderful, why do we not passionately share it with others? For me, I personally want my friends to know and understand how peaceful it is trusting that God has a plan for my life. I want them to know that they can rest with Him. We don’t have to figure this world out on our own.

In John chapter four, Jesus meets up with a woman at a well. After their conversation she goes running back to town telling everyone about what she just experienced. She isn’t keeping this life changing event to herself. She is telling everyone she knows. Verse 39 states, “Many of the Samaritans from the town believed in Him because of the woman’s testimony.”

If you know Jesus, you have something to share and tell others. You should be actively looking for ways to tell others about what you have. Make a list of times God has been there for you. Write down what He did that others need to know. Then like the woman at the well, tell anyone you can when God gives you the opportunity to do so.

I do want to point out one major difference between sharing food and sharing Jesus. When sharing your food, there is a limited supply. By sharing with others at the table, you give up what would be yours. This isn’t the case with Jesus. Telling others about Jesus and sharing your faith, does not take away anything from you. Jesus’ love, forgiveness, grace… is unlimited. Share it!

Continuous Conversations with God

What can we learn from children with imaginary friends about how to talk to God and keep him in our thoughts throughout the day?

When Jayla and Jace were little, they both had imaginary friends. Jayla invented Sally who ate dinner with us, rode in the car with us, and played with Jayla for hours on end. I held to the theory that imaginary friends were a sign of creative and highly developed imaginations. It was a few years later when Jace found Baby Wolf, his imaginary friend, at Wal-Mart. Baby Wolf laid under the table when we ate, slept beside Jace’s bed, and was always close by. As a mother, the best part was secretly listening to their little voices and developing vocabulary conversing with their imaginary friends.

When I think of the scriptures “pray without ceasing,” 1 Thessalonians 5:17, or “Pray always,” Ephesians 6:18, it reminds me of how children have conversations with imaginary friends. Before I go on, I first want to be clear that by no means am I insinuating that God is imaginary. He has been real to me time and time again; I have no doubt to how real he is. However, just as Jayla and Jace held continuous conversations with their imaginary friends and just as their imaginary friends were with them everywhere they went, we can talk to our Heavenly Father at any time, and He is always there. It’s just that He is real.

He is always there to listen to us and have a conversation with us. We can thank him when we get two green lights in a row, we can quickly ask for help when we can’t find our keys or phone. He is there when we are trying to make a decision or having a hard conversation. It should be our first instinct to reach out to God and talk to Him about our needs and thank Him for our blessings throughout the day. He wants to hear from us. He tells us, “Abide in Me, and I in you.” John 15: 4.

Prayer should be a big part of our day every day. Our thoughts should be in continuous connection with God. This is how we keep a healthy mind and live a spiritually lead life. Have you ever reconnected with a friend who you haven’t seen for years? Yes, it is possible to pick that friendship right up where you left off. Often though, you have to spend an hour or two at lunch or over coffee catching up on the time you have lost. With God, I don’t want to lose time and then have to catch up. He wants to stay close to us and be there through it all, the good and the hard.

Even while Jayla and Jace had small talk and play with their imaginary friends, for language development, they still needed real conversations that included talking and listening with an adult. Even though we should be in continuous conversation with prayerful thoughts throughout the day, we need real conversation time with God as well. Time set aside to get into His word, time to pour our deepest thoughts out to Him, and time to listen to His voice. This too is necessary for our development as a Christian.

Next time your mind is daydreaming or spewing out negative thoughts, take control and talk to God like you are talking to a friend.

Refuge or Strength – God’s got you Covered

Choosing your battles is hard. There are some battles worth fighting and some that are not yours to fight.

First of all, the hummingbird picture has nothing to do with this blog other than he was buzzing around all morning while I was reading and then while I was writing this blog, so I thought I would include him.

When my kids were growing up, one of the biggest decisions I had to make was what to ignore and what to take up as an issue. Looking back, I probably could have let more go than I did. Why was I so dogmatically insistent that they brush their teeth every single night no matter what? Did I think missing one night would cause all of their teeth would fall out, or that they wouldn’t brush their teeth as an adult if I let one night slip by? When they were teenagers, I learned to let it go that a week’s worth of clothes were on the floor. It just wasn’t worth the fight. However, when we reached the point that we were out of cereal bowls because they were all in my son’s room, that had to be addressed.

The same is true as a leader. What battles do I need to stand up and fight compared to what battles do I need to duck and cover because they will run their course and be short lived. Neither option is easy. Taking up the battle and addressing a problem head on is hard and takes courage. It is equally hard to let something go even though you know that it is a temporary problem, not worth the energy or the repercussions of making it a big deal.

In Psalm 46:1 when the psalmist wrote that God is our refuge and our strength, look, he is telling us God is there for either situation. He is there to be our refuge, our shelter, when we need to hunker down and ride out the storm or when we need to stay in the bunker of God’s refuge and let God fight the battle. Conversely, God is our strength when we find our self on the front line in what might feel like hand-to-hand combat.

Whether you are in the middle of a storm with your health or enduring a challenge at work that is out of your control, rest assured and rest in God’s refuge. Furthermore, if you are fighting for your marriage or fighting against an addiction, fight, and fight hard, knowing that God will provide the strength that you need. No matter your situation or what you need, God is our ever-present help when needed.