I am fortunate to not have very many scars, but that also means I don’t have very many exciting stories to go with them.
Not long ago I was sitting with a friend on the edge of the pool. Both of us at sometime in our lives have broken a bone in our foot. Her story is much more exciting than mine. She was getting down from a life guard stand. I’m sure to save a life or something. I was simply walking across a parking lot and fell. Anyway, different circumstances, same injury and ironically, different scars. Truthfully, my scar, that you can barely see, actually came from the “old lady” bunion surgery I decided to have since I had to be in a boot for 6 weeks for the broken bone in my foot to heal. It was a matter of killing two birds with one stone.
The point I want to make is the same injury, the same surgery, the same life event results in a completely unique scar for each individual. Not only is this true for physical scars, but emotional scars follow the same pattern. Two people can go through the exact same event (divorce, death of a child, loss of a job, death of a spouse) and the event will result in completely different scars.
While I can by no means begin to explain how the body heals, I can tell you we are wonderfully designed by God to recreate cells and make new skin to heal wounds that would otherwise be life threatening. The same is true with our emotional scars.
There will be scars in life. No one is promised to live scar free. True, some have multiple scars that are deep, hurtful and life changing, while others of us have managed to live life with only a few scars. John 16:33 tells us, “In this world you will have trouble.” There is no way around problems or hurts in life. However, there is more to the story. It is the part before and after this statement in John 16:33 that is the most important. “…in Me you may have peace….. but take heart! I have overcome the world.” We will have hurts in this life and no one can tell us how to get through them because they are different for everyone. While we can learn from others, we cannot duplicate anyone else’s experience. We have to heal in our own way and yes healing usually involves a great big ugly scab. The beauty is in the new skin that is formed under the scab and only revealed in time.
During that time when the scab is big and ugly, itchy and wanting someone to pick at it, remember that “The Lord is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in Him.” Nahum 1:7. Although I don’t have countless scars, I have one or two that are pretty deep, and I can tell you with the utmost confidence, that the new skin under the surface of that scar is fresh and beautiful. Hang in there and be proud of the scars you have.
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